coping with hard situations

How do you and your family deal with coping? Do you guys communicate, or do you not talk about the problems? Everybody copes with things differently some people might shut down some might get angary and explode. I know for me when I get really mad at someone I tend to shut down and not really want to talk to them for a little bit. But both of those response are not really good to have when coming across difficult circumstances. The best, but the hardest way to act is to act calmly and not push it to the side. We have to remember to talk about things. Communication is always key to successful relationships. When we don’t talk about things, that is when problems start to pile up and more damage can and will happen. For example, if I got mad at my sister for being fifteen minutes late to the bus stop and that she made me wait in the blazing hot sun. I could act out and yell or I could be mad and shut down. If I would have stayed cool calm and collected, then I could have found out that her dog she had for ten years just passed away. If I would have yelled at her I would have felt bad and if I would have shut down and ignored her I also would have felt bad that I was not there to listen to her. We may not get to choose our circumstances, but we do get to choose our thoughts. There might be the same people in an event, but they might take away a different experience from that event. Let’s say your girlfriend started to work more hours so she could afford the Christmas gift you really want. But in your head, you are thinking what did I do to make her be so distant from me? When really, she is just trying to make you happy and you didn’t do anything wrong. It could pull you guys apart. The way you react to things is very important it is something that you should be mindful of, people can read and take t certain things away from what you said. This last winter I was in the hospital freaking out coming up with the worst circumstances in my head, it was freaking me out. I did not get to choose that circumstance, but I did get to choose my thoughts if I would have not jumped to conclusions so fast  and to keep thinking about it I would not have been freaking out so much. We can either choose to be positive in difficult decisions or we can think negatively. When we think about it more it hurts us more and when it hurts us more we take away a more negative point of view on in. Thinking negatively never does anything good. When your hunting dog gets a snout full of porky pine spikes do you start to think that your hunting dog is useless because he might not be able to smell as good. You might start to think that way but you can change the way you think. It’s so important to know that you can control the way you think. Lots of people don’t relies that you can control the ways you think when bad or scary things happen. Coping is more than just getting by its how we react.