parenting

Did you like the way you were brought up? The way your parents raised you? There is no such thing as a perfect parent. A lot of times children don’t like the way they were brought up and they tell themselves that they will not raise their future children the way they were raised. Lots of people don’t really know what to expect with parenting. Becoming parents one can learn so many things. They start to understand children and understand how much God can love someone. Having children also helps give an order to our lives. They prioritize things to do throughout the day. Parents need to realize that children have there owned personal needs and need to fill attachment need. They need to have those requirements fulfilled because if they don’t then they can have some issues. Let’s say that Bobby doesn’t get enough attention at home so he acts out in school and gets sent to the principal's office. The principal then calls Bobbie's parents and they have to talk to the principle and Bobby to figure out why Bobby is acting out all the time. It turns out that Bobby just doesn't get enough attention at home and getting into trouble at school is the only way Bobby can get his parents attention. Children need attention that is one way children feel loved. Could you imagine your parents both working and are never home and when they were home they were always on the phone with some and never paying any attention to you could you see how that would have such a big impact on your child.

            Some things that are important to teach your children is responsibility and respect. Without learning any responsibility as a child, they will not learn how to grow up and take care of themselves. going to college I have seen some people who don't really know how to do the basic things. I have met someone who never knew how to start the dishwasher before she came up to college because her mother always did it. Growing up and loading and starting the dishwasher was a choir that the young children got to do. My parents taught us how to do small and simple choirs when we were young and when we got older we got to do things like moe the lawn. I think you have to start teaching your kids how to work at a young age so that when there a teenager they won't complain as much as they would if they had never worked a day in there lives. As for respect that is also very important if you don't teach your kids to have respect at a young age how do you think they will respect you when they are teenagers? Teaching kids to have respect for there elderly and not talking back is something I think all children should be taught. 

            Children need to feel like they belong somewhere they need to feel like they can bring something to the table. When a child doesn't feel like they belong it will be very ruff of them. Growing up one of my friends didn't fit in with her siblings she always felt like the black sheep of the family. It was always sad to see and to hear about. Something that I think is important is to offer contact freely. When your child needs a hug to give them a hug and when they don't need a hug still give them a hug to let them know that they are loved. Let children make some of their own choices if it's not too far in the distance and if they are safe. If we don't do those things you can start to see Rebellion in you child and that is something that no parent wants to see in their child.