Homosexual understanding

I want you to think back to when you were a kid what kind of toys did you play with? Did your parents enforce you to play with certain toys? For me growing up I played with baby dolls and barbies. My brothers played with trucks and army men. My room had flowers painted on it everywhere, my brothers room had footballs and basket balls painted everywhere. Some people might think that my parents disapproved when we played with the opposite gender toys, but they didn’t. I can remember playing Legos with my brothers, and if I was lucky I could get my brothers to play house with me. I found it very interesting that there was a study on how children actually picked toys specific to their own gender. The  study showed that children actually picked the toys specific to their gender before they even knew what gender was. https://www.acsh.org/news/2016/07/22/infants-prefer-toys-by-gender?utm_source=email%20marketing%20Mailigen&utm_campaign=News%207.29.16&utm_medium=email

 In my class we were talking about how children are raised and how that might impact their sexuality, or even if they were born that way. I heard that so much in high school. I was not educated on this topic at all. Whenever someone would ask me if homosexual people  were born that way or not my reply was always “I have no clue.” I feel like a lot of my friend’s replies were that they were born that way. I thought it was rather interesting if a boy likes to make things with his mom and does not like to get dirty it’s kind of looked down upon but if a girl goes outside and rolls around in the dirt and likes boy things it is cute and okay. Once a boy gets to the age where he gets teased for not being good at soccer or not liking to wrestle. He feels like he is different from the other boys. This is where everything kind of starts to happen. For some guys it can start because they were abused. I was so shocked by that, but it totally makes sense. They don’t get the attention form their father, so they search for that attention somewhere else. In some other cases they were molested as a child or teased and told that they were gay. That makes me so sad that people molest children and that our words can have such a big impact on other people. I never knew that some people only act on being gay because they didn’t fit in and they were told that they are gay. I also learned that some homosexual people don’t want to have feelings for the same gender. There is this really cool video called “Understanding Same-Sex  Attraction” It is a really good video if you want to understand homosexual people better. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJhyzqdzpnM

 In the video they talked about how unhappy they were when they were homosexual but when they changed it actually hired their self of esteem. I didn’t realize that they had so much health problems. I found it very interesting that some people think they tend to have more health issues because they are not excepted and if the world were to except them the health issues would go down. They also talked about a study done with identical twins to see if they were both homosexual or not. Because after all they have the exact genes so if one was gay the other must have to be 100 % homosexual too. The study shows that the other twin was only 11% homosexual. So therefore, they can’t be born gay.

Works cited

“Infants Prefer Toys By Gender.” 40 Years Ago, GMO Insulin Was Controversial Also | American Council on Science and Health, www.acsh.org/news/2016/07/22/infants-prefer-toys-by-gender?utm_source=email%2Bmarketing%2BMailigen&utm_campaign=News%2B7.29.16&utm_medium=email.

“Understanding Same-Sex Attraction.” YouTube, YouTube, 7 Nov. 2013, www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJhyzqdzpnM.

parents love for their children

Do you think that there are still social classes? There are still social classes whether you like it or not. We can define class through careers, appearance, behaviors, locations and the stuff they own. Have you ever  noticed how really rich people and really poor people have the similar issues? When I first heard this, I was shocked. But it totally makes sense now. Rich people want more and more so they get people to watch their kids. Poor people have the issue with not making enough money, so they have to work a lot, so they can’t stay home with their kids.  In our class we watched some videos of people a who were in the lower spectrum who wanted their children to have a better life they did things like worked more hours. The mother plays a big role in teaching the children things like how to clean, behave, and be responsible. When the mother is not in the home it can have a big impact on the kids.

I want you to think what has your family done for you to have a better life? How have they suffered so you can have a better life? Mothers and fathers will do anything for their children. They don’t like to see their children be in pain or to be needing things they can’t afford. My parents both didn’t come from very rich families. My dad had nine other siblings raised in a father less home. So, they did not have much. He would tell us stories of his mom putting water in the ketchup bottle to make it last longer. My dad worked hard to come to where he is now. He went to work right after high school. He worked multiply jobs when my parents first were married for the first few years. He now has his own business. I would say that my dad’s hard work has paid off, he can now take my mom on a fun trip some place tropical. When people are struggling through life it can actually be a good thing because when you struggle that is when you grow the most. Most people don’t think of struggling that way. They think of if as a bad thing. When you work for things in life it is that much better. Let’s say you were not very good at baking so you go buy a cake for your mom’s birthday she would like it, but it can only be so good because its store bought. But if you struggled to bake your mom’s family recipe for cake from scratch she would enjoy it more to you and her. Working hard on something and seeing it pay of can be one of the most joyful things ever.

            This last week we talked about immigration and why so many people do it illegally. I have never realized how difficult it is. How hard it is on the families. They do this, so the children can have a better life. There have been studies where Mexican families were happier in Mexico because they had enough money to get by and be happy and had their extended family. But once they come to the US they leave their extended family. They then go from mom not working to mom and dad working because it is more expensive to live in the US. And the jobs they do get are crummy because they can’t find a good job because they don’t speak English and are illegal. So now moms as dad’s lives aren’t the best because they both come home grumpy from a long day of work. But they do this all for their children, so they can get a good education learn English and have a better life. Most parents will literally do anything for their children.

family system

Imagine you are babysitting some children and their parents are not super strict on their rules for their kids. So, their children learn to be free spirits.  You are babysitting these kids and they are jumping form couch to couch, and hanging upside down from their bunkbeds. You then tell them to stop because you don’t want to take a trip to the ER. They don’t listen, and while that is going on the other kids are throwing cheese balls at one another making a Cheetos mess! You are now kind of freaking out because nobody is listening to you. When there are limited rules the family is not as strong as it could be. Families function off of rules. Rules are a very important necessity in a family. Without them children will learn to walk all over their parents.  Lots of the time rules are not posted on the wall like what chores you have to do for the week. In my family we had rules like keeping our cellphones in the kitchen when we had to go to bed. (so we would not stay up on our phones all night.) Or being home by curfew every night knowing if I missed it I would get grounded. Knowing that if I didn’t follow the rules there would be consequences. One of the big rules was not talking back to my mom and dad. Sometimes as young teens me and my siblings did not follow this rule very well. After all, we were teens and thought we were always right. When we didn’t follow this rule, you would notice it throughout the whole house, everybody was moody and not happy. You know the saying “when moms not happy nobodies happy” it is very true how somebodies attitude can change other people’s attitudes.

             Everybody has a different perspective on how families should be, but I think families are kind of like a system. For example, if you don’t have oil in your car then, you will run into some serious issues, and it will mess up your engine. If mom and dad aren’t getting along it then has a huge impact on the rest of the family. I have seen this in my own life, one of my friend’s parents were always arguing. It then made their children act out because the parents weren’t giving them the attention they needed. If one part of the “System” in the family acts out it impacts the whole thing. Growing up I would get into an argument with my sister and it would just put a depressing vibe out on everything. I then figured out at a young age that arguing never fixes anything talking it through nicely works, but arguing never works. Moms and dads have a big part in keeping the family together they have such a big impact on children and how they will turn out. Something my mom and dad has always told me was to “remember who you are and that your actions represent the Fox family.”

 Just the other day I was at a grocery store and I was waiting in line the checkout line and this little five-year-old was crying and throwing a tantrum. I was not really shocked, because that is when the mother paid more attention to her then to her phone. I Think parents should limit themselves the amount of technology they use so they can give more attention to their children. I understand that you get busy. Everyone has busy lives but your children need to know that you are listening and paying attention to them. 

the family

          Has anyone ever told you that having a child was a burden, or your life will basically be over when they are born. I have been told these things when really those aren’t true at all. In high school I was told that I shouldn’t want to have a lot of kids, because I wouldn’t be able to love them all the same. Children are a gift from God and a blessing to have. Granted sometimes when you can’t get your baby to sleep at night it can be easy to think they’re not a blessing, but they are a huge blessing! Next time you get the chance to hold a baby in your arms just think of how innocent and pure they are.

 It’s sad to see that families are having less and less kids. This census shows how much it is changing. https://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/hh-fam/tabHH-6.pdf

 People come up with all these other excuses like the world is so corrupt why would I want to bring children into this world.  It’s so expensive to have kids we don’t have enough money for kids. These are just excuses you can work around these things it may take a lot of hard work, but in the end, it will be worth it. My parents are a great example of this they were so poor when they first got married, that did not convince them to not have children. My dad worked two jobs and my mom worked at home, so she could stay home with the kids. Twenty-eight years later they have six children, and my dad can now pick his hours. Hard work really does pays off. 

 Studies have been showing that the household sizes are going down a lot. In a book called Marriage and Family the Question for Intimacy eight edition it says, “By 1960, the average was 3.3 people, and by 2008 the figure was 2.56” (pg.12) It could be going down because people are getting married at later ages, then they used to and are having children at later ages which means less kids. Studies have actually showed that people are getting married when they get older. For women the average age is 28 and for men the average age is 30 (Ben Steverman) https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-07-28/why-you-re-being-invited-to-fewer-weddings?cmpId=flipboard

I think that for some people it is just too scary to get married and settle down. Having to be responsible for bringing money and food to the table for other people and not just yourself can be a terrifying thing. People being scared to get married is a totally normal thing. I’ve been told by a lot of people that Marriage is not just some walk in the park it takes a lot of work to working things out between your spouse. I have seen this in my own life growing up my parents might not have agreed on something, but they would talk it out and get on the same page. Communication is very important, and I think that communication is a big problem now a day because divorce rates are getting higher and higher. It’s a lot easier to get a divorce now then it was back in the 50’s. Back then you had to have proof that your partner had something wrong now all you need to say is that you don’t love each other anymore. http://historycooperative.org/the-history-of-divorce-law-in-the-usa/

growing up some of my friend’s parents got divorces and it was hard to see my friend’s parents split, because it has such a bad impact on the children’s life no matter how old they are. If my parents were to get a divorce I wouldn’t know what to do with myself and I’m no longer living under the same roof as them.