Has anyone ever told you that having a child was a burden, or your life will basically be over when they are born. I have been told these things when really those aren’t true at all. In high school I was told that I shouldn’t want to have a lot of kids, because I wouldn’t be able to love them all the same. Children are a gift from God and a blessing to have. Granted sometimes when you can’t get your baby to sleep at night it can be easy to think they’re not a blessing, but they are a huge blessing! Next time you get the chance to hold a baby in your arms just think of how innocent and pure they are.
It’s sad to see that families are having less and less kids. This census shows how much it is changing. https://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/hh-fam/tabHH-6.pdf
People come up with all these other excuses like the world is so corrupt why would I want to bring children into this world. It’s so expensive to have kids we don’t have enough money for kids. These are just excuses you can work around these things it may take a lot of hard work, but in the end, it will be worth it. My parents are a great example of this they were so poor when they first got married, that did not convince them to not have children. My dad worked two jobs and my mom worked at home, so she could stay home with the kids. Twenty-eight years later they have six children, and my dad can now pick his hours. Hard work really does pays off.
Studies have been showing that the household sizes are going down a lot. In a book called Marriage and Family the Question for Intimacy eight edition it says, “By 1960, the average was 3.3 people, and by 2008 the figure was 2.56” (pg.12) It could be going down because people are getting married at later ages, then they used to and are having children at later ages which means less kids. Studies have actually showed that people are getting married when they get older. For women the average age is 28 and for men the average age is 30 (Ben Steverman) https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-07-28/why-you-re-being-invited-to-fewer-weddings?cmpId=flipboard
I think that for some people it is just too scary to get married and settle down. Having to be responsible for bringing money and food to the table for other people and not just yourself can be a terrifying thing. People being scared to get married is a totally normal thing. I’ve been told by a lot of people that Marriage is not just some walk in the park it takes a lot of work to working things out between your spouse. I have seen this in my own life growing up my parents might not have agreed on something, but they would talk it out and get on the same page. Communication is very important, and I think that communication is a big problem now a day because divorce rates are getting higher and higher. It’s a lot easier to get a divorce now then it was back in the 50’s. Back then you had to have proof that your partner had something wrong now all you need to say is that you don’t love each other anymore. http://historycooperative.org/the-history-of-divorce-law-in-the-usa/
growing up some of my friend’s parents got divorces and it was hard to see my friend’s parents split, because it has such a bad impact on the children’s life no matter how old they are. If my parents were to get a divorce I wouldn’t know what to do with myself and I’m no longer living under the same roof as them.
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